conversations with friends

Interesting conversations happening around me these days. Getting to know yourself is one theme that has been repeatedly chatted about recently. 

We talk about libido verses love, true love, ideals, moral's, values,  expectations and romanticism,  marriage, the "honeymoon" period, settling in, and then, reality. 

So what is this elusive connection we all are searching for? The human spirit cannot live with out love, acceptance, intimacy, and when we don't have it, or have lost it, we deaden our hearts to the potential of it. Going through an endless cycle of people, and places.... constantly looking... 

When in fact we need to be looking within. Looking at what we have to offer.  What is valued and what isn't. What is our expectation, what do we really want. 

Talking with a good friend of mine about a woman he is seeing. He wants to move fast, there is a connection, she, wants slow. So, which is it? My thoughts are, you know when you get there.... so maybe they are not there yet?  Maybe none of us truly are there. 

Is this real, or illusion..... 

Is it all an illusion? What matter's to us in the end... is time linear or relative? An endless circle of changing faces, times, places..... or are we looking for the one we lost, in the beginning? The 1st one? 

My parents were married 58 years..... it's what I thought my life would be. And then I wonder, did what they have, was it real, or did they just come from a place in time, where you stayed, gave 100% of yourself, on both sides.  So are we changing with the times, the lining up of planets... are there atmospheric forces, beyond our ken, that we have no control over no matter what we choose or expect? 

Or does "love" come in more than one form? friendship, family, brotherly or sisterly... the age old question.... is it a belief, or what is written in a book..... 

Also, to have been loved so deeply, even though the person who loved us, or who we loved is gone, should give us some faith and protection forever.......